This is a heavy weight to carry. I found my own scenario of being rejected by family yet still bound by duty to do for them what they can’t do for themselves.
White friends have repeatedly expressed astonishment - they’d have written off their parents for 1/100th the level of disrespect and condescension we’ve experienced. I’m sure you’ve experienced this too.
OH, GOD. The rejection-plus-obligation knot is its own specific kind of exhausting, and I don't think there's a good name for it yet. Glad you're here, man.
This is a heavy weight to carry. I found my own scenario of being rejected by family yet still bound by duty to do for them what they can’t do for themselves.
White friends have repeatedly expressed astonishment - they’d have written off their parents for 1/100th the level of disrespect and condescension we’ve experienced. I’m sure you’ve experienced this too.
OH, GOD. The rejection-plus-obligation knot is its own specific kind of exhausting, and I don't think there's a good name for it yet. Glad you're here, man.
Ernie, I'm moved and encouraged by your honesty. Encouraged as in: courage to speak truth when it breaks your heart.
This comment is going to rattle around in my head for a while. (The good kind of rattle.)
Thank you, Havi.